New Year is a time when many
people reflect and evaluate their life and look forward to implementing
changes to move towards a better lifestyle. New Years resolutions are
often made as people try to deal with the external aspects of their
life, for example, bad habits, better lifestyle, or improved
Reflecting on life and making plans for improving life is a good process
to work through anytime, whether it be a new year or not. However, one
of the reasons many people fail quickly putting their good intentions
into action is because they don't understand a very basic principle.
There is a foundational truth
that underlies all change, which is, that in order to embrace the new,
we need to release the old. If you want to go forward in your life, you
need to let go of the things in your past that will impede or even
prevent you moving on. This can be likened to trying to walk forward
while looking backwards; progress is less than satisfactory.
This article explores some of the reasons why we should look at freeing
ourselves from negative aspects of the past, in order to move forward
towards our dreams and goals.
In life bad stuff happens. It is, unfortunately, a fact of life for
everyone. Majority of people don't realize however, that it is their
response to the events in their lives that have a lasting impact, not
the event itself.
When something bad happens, it is natural to go through a time of
remorse, regret and sorrow. However, in order to move forward you need
to arrive at a place where you consciously make a decision to let go and
move on. This involves making a decision to stop re-living and dwelling
on that event over and over again in your memory. If you don't decide to
move on, those events and set-backs in your life start to become your
By continuing to dwell on events and set-backs a door is opened for
resentment, hurt, grudges, self pity, excuses, and bitterness to take
root in your heart and life. This starts to build walls of separation.
We think we are protecting ourselves, but we are not. We are, in fact,
shutting other people out of our lives, resulting in becoming
increasingly alone, isolated, warped, and imprisoned by our own
bitterness. It is these walls that keep our dreams and good intentions
from coming to pass.
The key to unlocking the door of our self made prison is forgiveness. We
do not have the power to change the past whether it be events or
situations. Forgiveness cut us loose and frees us to move forward and
create a new future.
Forgiveness is not just about the other person. Very often we need to
forgive ourselves for our mistakes and disappointments and let ourselves
off the hook too.
As you move into a new year, I encourage you to let go of the things
that are holding you back. Stop carrying that extra baggage-set yourself
free to make a new start. Forgive people who have hurt you; let go of
the things that have been done to you. Get bitterness out of your life!
Forgive yourself, and then let it go. As you move forward into the new
year, free of old baggage, you will start catching glimpses of fresh
hope and of a new future.